Sincere Personal Story of a Transgender Couple: You Won’t Believe What Challenges They Left Behind to Have a Baby

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This  family shared their thoughts about gender roles and what it means to be a dad, CNN reports. Here are what the couple had to come through to become parents and what difficulties they see in future.

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Source: John Nowak/CNN

Meet Sabastion and Angel

Sabastion, 24, is a man who lives with his wife Angel in suburban Atlanta and who told CNN their incredible story. Assigned the female gender at birth, he began transitioning five years ago and recently had surgery to remove his breasts.

By the time Sabastion met Angel five years ago at a convention for people, he identified as a man. Angel, 33, was designated male at birth but had transitioned years earlier.

They both knew they wanted to be parents, so after they were married in 2016, they agreed that Sabastion would carry their child. This was a tough decision, Angel Sparks says, that wasn’t taken lightly.

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Source: John Nowak/CNN

Pregnancy period 

Like many men and women, they had been taking medication to increase the testosterone or estrogen in their bodies. So to make a baby, they briefly stopped taking their hormone pills.

“Getting pregnant was fine,” Angel says. “Trying to stay pregnant was difficult.”

The first time they tried, Sabastion miscarried. “Before Jaxen, Sabastion was my baby,” Angel says. “I was worried about the baby, but I was also worried that I could lose Sabastion too.”

When Sabastion was pregnant, someone close to him threatened to take the baby away, saying his life at home would be unnatural. For security reasons, he and Angel were listed as anonymous at the hospital.

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Source: John Nowak/CNN

The importance of surgery 

After Jaxen was born, Sabastion sometimes had to breastfeed when he, Angel and their son were out in public. The three of them drew stares as they navigated the aisles of their neighborhood stores.

“People would snicker or call us ‘f******,'” she says. “He’d try so hard to cover it up and hide what he was doing.”

So last month’s surgery wasn’t just important for him, but for Jaxen too. Sabastion wants his son to see himself in him. “My son won’t see breasts on his dad,” he says, watching Jaxen play with a ball. “He won’t be as different from me.”

Angel has noticed Sabastion seems more self-assured since his surgery. “He’s always running around with his shirt off,” she says, playfully. “It’s like he’s looking for a reason to show the world his chest.”

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Source: John Nowak/CNN

Dreaming about life without limits

For their son, they want a future without limits. Angel puts Jaxen to bed some nights, while other times it’s Sabastion. They both can sense when Jaxen wants to be picked up or tossed playfully in the air.

But when it comes to lessons learned as a toddler, there are some things Sabastion wants to teach Jaxen, father to son. One of them is how to pee standing up – something Sabastion does with the help of a detachable prosthetic.

Although he’s less than 2, Jaxen already shows signs of seeing his parents in terms of traditional gender roles. “He looks to me for nurturing,” Angel says. “He looks to dad to play ball.”

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Source: John Nowak/CNN

Sabastion wants Jaxen to travel around the world. He wants to help guide his son on his path to adulthood and make sure he never feels like he can’t find love wherever he turns.

But even though the Sparks have created a safe and loving home for their son, Sabastion still worries about how cruel the outside world will be to a child with trans parents.

“We’re thinking about homeschooling him because we don’t what will happen when the kids find out his parents are trans. By being who we are, we’re already subject to the ridicule of others,” he says. “All we can do is teach him our values and hope for the best.”


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Sincere Personal Story of a Transgender Couple: You Won't Believe What Challenges They Left Behind to Have a Baby
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Sincere Personal Story of a Transgender Couple: You Won't Believe What Challenges They Left Behind to Have a Baby
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This transgender family shared their thoughts about gender roles and what it means to be a dad, CNN reports. Here are what the couple had to come through to become parents and what difficulties they see in future.
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